Another Groove

Man I love these grooves!

THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noelle
www.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove

:: Helping vs. Co-creation ::

  Q: How do you know when it's appropriate
      to offer your child help/assistance?

  A: When the offer feels *inspired* rather
      than fear-based.

If you're coming from a perspective that your
child is
helpless, damaged, weak, incompetent, lost,
wrong,
etc., then your "help" will only give power to
that
belief. It won't feel inspired to you, and it
won't
inspire your child to connect with his or her
Power.

But if you consciously shift your perspective to
one
in which you see your child as capable of finding
his
or her way, you won't feel like you "should"
help, and
you probably won't offer to help unless asked.

However, you might be *inspired* to get involved
in a
way that doesn't feel like you're a "have"
helping a
"have-not" -- it'll feel more like two souls
playing
together, co-creating purely for the joy of it!

http://dailygroove.net/helping

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It is hard for people to leave alone, or not leave alone but allow....be there for your child but not interfere, *sigh* see its even hard to explain.

Around our house we've taken the route of, "did he/she ask for help?" That often worked because sometimes one of us would want to help another out but the person wasn't looking for help.

I like the inspiration explanation. Being, yeah, being there but not interfering. Yet helping along if needed. It is a fine line.

Change of subject now, :)

We're heading out today to go over to the Fargo/Moorhead area. Kyra really wanted to celebrate her birthday with the Moorhead bunch too. So, we'll be hanging with friends and family the next couple of days and going to Shrek 3 with them! Yayy! Got our tickets already and we're set, everyone is so excited!!